Oct 072016
 
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Choosing your wedding day attire is an opportunity to both embody the style and dress code you've chosen for your wedding and also express your personality, and a same-sex wedding is no exception! Whether it's two brides or two grooms, you should walk down the aisle in something that makes you feel your best. While two brides wouldn't expect to wear the same outfit for their wedding, should two grooms wear the same suit or tux, or should they opt to each wear something that speaks to their personality? Here are some tips from our experts.

Good news! There is no rule requiring that two grooms need to match as they walk down the aisle. You should, however, consider keeping your attire coordinated — both to fit your wedding's dress code and to match with the style or theme of your celebration. For example, if you're having a black tie wedding, you might opt to wear tuxedos with different finishes (such as a peak vs. a shawl collar lapel, or satin vs. matte details) or in different hues, with one in a dark navy tuxedo and the other in black or slate gray. You could choose to accent your looks with creative bow ties, or one could don a straight tie instead.

For a more casual wedding, you also have similar options. Whether it's suits in different shades or cuts, the addition of a coordinated vest, or a colorful tie, embrace the opportunity to express your style and personality while still making sure you both fit in with your wedding's dress code and theme (and stand out amongst the guests!).

If you do choose to wear outfits that match more closely, consider shopping at the same store and shopping together. Standing side-by-side in the dressing room in the same suit or tux, you'll get a pretty good idea of whether it's a look you love or if the matchy-matchy feels like it's too much. Shopping in the same store and looking at attire from the same brand will also ensure that your suits are the exact same shade of gray or black, versus trying to match fabrics across brands and designers.

See More: 5 Ways to Reinvent the Traditional Tux

Rome Just Celebrated Its First Same-Sex Civil Union

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Sep 212016
 
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L'amore was definitely in the air this past weekend when the first same-sex civil union took place in the city of Rome. Francisco Raffaele Villarusso and Luca de Sario tied the knot in a historic wedding (talk about added pre-nuptial pressure!), officiated by the Mayor of Rome, herself.

Dressed in dapper purple top hats and matching ruffled cumberbunds, there was no taking your eyes off of Villarusso and de Sario, who were declared husband and husband by the newly-elected Mayor Virginia Raggi. And their "I do's" were certainly a longtime coming for this darling duo. (Same-sex civil unions were finally legalized in Rome just three months ago, after all!) With their love not recognized at home, the couple originally packed up and moved to Spain, with the intention of tying the knot there. But with the recent passage of the Civil Union bill, they ditched the destination wedding for an at-home ceremony. "We had already decided do it and we moved abroad, but when the bill was approved we packed up all our things and came back to Italy," Villarusso explained to EuroNews.

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With this summer's legalization of same-sex unions, Italy became the last country of the European Union to legally recognize LGBT relationships — but life is still not all sunshine and rainbows (or rainbow flags for that matter) for couples like Villarusso and de Sario. The bill's controversial clause to ease the process of adoption for LGBT couples ended up being dropped after it faced fierce opposition from the Catholic church and protests across the region. And name changes, tax, and identity problems still exist for same-sex couples who call the city of the Roman Catholic church home.

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See More: How to Find the Perfect First Dance Song for a Same-Sex Wedding

Still, Villarusso and de Sario's "I do's" (seen in the video below) are reason to celebrate! With their long-awaitted first wedded kiss, the couple welcomed a new strive for equality in Rome — and that couldn't be more bellissimo!

Here’s How to Change Your Name as a Same-Sex Couple

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Aug 092016
 
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Planning a wedding is all about making decisions: Should we through a causal backyard bash or black-tie ballroom affair? Plated dinner or a free-for-all buffet? Fondant cake or macaroon tower? Mini-moon now or honeymoon later? But one of the biggest decisions you may make is whether to change your last name — and when that question is posed to same-sex couples, our expert says, the options can seem endless.

"Same sex couples are the creative pioneers of modern marriage, for all of us," says Mark O'Connell, New York City-based psychotherapist and author of Modern Brides & Modern Grooms: A Guide to Planning Straight, Gay, and Other Nontraditional Twenty-First-Century Weddings. "That lack of formal same-sex marriage traditions means that our options are wide open. And that goes for the surnames we choose to use, too."

After all, O'Connell points out, there's not exactly a name-change tradition that's been set for hundreds of years, as there has been for heterosexual couples, that guides same-sex couples one way or another. "The lack of precedential standards for marriages like ours means that there are no tradition police to tell us whose name to take," he says.

Of course, one obvious option is for both of you to keep both of you respective surnames. "Most modern couples today, gay or straight, value equality and mutual recognition between partners," O'Connell explains. "And the many same-sex couples who choose to keep their own surnames post-wedding, are great symbols of this gender neutral equality within marriage. Many straight couples are following this example, too."

See More: How to Find the Right Officiant For Your Same-Sex Marriage

But as stated above, that's hardly your only choice. Together, you could decide to take one partner's surname as your own. "Some couples prefer to have one last name for the sake of coherence and for recognition by the rest of the world," O'Connell says. Be prepared for roadblocks if you take this route, O'Connell warns, as you will need to seek court approval to change your given name.

"Currently the only case in which a spouse can take her spouse's surname without a lot of complicated paperwork is when a woman takes her husband's last name," he says. "Every other case — including straight grooms taking the surname of their straight brides — involves court approval, and lots of legal paperwork depending on the state in which you live."

Lastly, you could consider creating a new last name that you both take as your own, and that, should you choose to have them, your children could one day share too. This works, too, if you're intent on keeping a professional name but want a new name for legal and personal matters, O'Connell says.

You might even consider creating a new last name that both you, your spouse, and your children share. Both spouses might consider keeping their professional names exactly as they are and creating a new name for all legal/ personal matters. This could also help to protect privacy for their family, if one or both of the spouses has very public careers.

We’re Having a Same-Sex Wedding. Should We Have Separate Bachelor or Bachelorette Parties?

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Jul 252016
 
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There is so much excitement leading up to a wedding. From engagement parties and bridal showers to wedding cake tastings and bachelor and bachelorette parties, the hard work of planning a wedding is (thankfully) interspersed with lots of fun! Same-sex weddings are no exception, though there are definitely some details that are a little bit different. One such aspect that requires a little more thought? Whether to have separate or joint bachelor or bachelorette parties. Here's what our experts have to say about having the last fling(s) before the ring.

While bachelor parties are traditionally for the guys and bachelorette parties are usually for the girls, when both halves of the couple are the same sex, that division is a little less clear. Thankfully, coed bachelor/bachelorette parties are becoming more and more common — and are just as fun as the single-sex variety! So before you decide whether to have your big night out together or separately, know that who is on the guest list is 100% up to you.

When it comes to having one or two bachelor or bachelorette parties, consider the type of event each of you would enjoy. If you're both on board with a weekend of wine tasting and gourmet dinners, or would love to spend a day or two by the pool and nights on the Strip in Vegas, by all means celebrate together! This is also a great idea if you have a large number of mutual friends who would be invited to both celebrations (whether you're having a same-sex wedding or not!).

If your styles are a little different (one wants a relaxing spa getaway, while the other would love to go fishing on the lake or play a few rounds of golf), two separate bachelor or bachelorette parties might be a better idea. This way you can each enjoy activities you love with your close friends. No matter what you decide to do, throw the rules out the window and plan a bachelor or bachelorette party that you'll really remember and enjoy!

See more: How to Throw a Killer Bachelorette Party for Same-Sex Couples

Pride 2016: Police Officers Proposed To Their Partners at London’s Pride Parade and the Video is a Serious Tearjerker

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Jun 272016
 

Rainbow flags have been flying high all over the world this week, as various Pride Parades have been filling the streets from New York City to France. But it was London's Pride Parade that came to a screeching halt on Saturday — for the sweetest of reasons! Two police officers working security at the event both broke ranks to propose to their significant others, because, really, could you think of a better place to pop the question than that?

On Saturday June 25, the city of London broke out its rainbow flags for their annual Pride Parade. As the ranks of police men and women marched in formation through the streets and amongst the cheering crowds, one certain officer couldn't think of a more joyous moment to get down on one knee. As the parade passed his boyfriend, who was watching from the sidewalk, the officer broke ranks, bringing the event to a halt to say those four fantastic words.

Of course the watching crowd didn't seem to mind the pause in the parade a bit, as the onlookers cheered on the adorable couple, capturing the sweet moment on video. And naturally, the police offer received a resounding 'yes!' from his sweetheart as the pair embraced. Cue the flying confetti and a couple of glasses of champagne, courtesy of a kind spectator. Ugh! Could this moment be any more perfect?!

But that wasn't the only in-uniform parade proposal that day! According to People magazine, minutes later another too-cute cop got down on one knee in the middle of the London streets. But this time, it was a fellow officer who was on the receiving end of the proposal! And, duh, the answer was yes, as well! Thankfully, cameras were also nearby to capture this equally perfect proposal.

There's no better place than a Pride Parade to celebrate love, after all!

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How to Find the Perfect First Dance Song for a Same-Sex Wedding

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Jun 172016
 

Choosing the perfect wedding song for such a monumental moment as the first dance is a task and a half, and especially so when you're a same-sex couple.

Ahh the first dance song, the track that will play as you and your newly minted life partner sway back and forth as your friends and family snap photos and ooh and ahh about how perfect you look (and presumably are) together. It's an important moment, and it's something that takes a lot of thought. And unless you're one of those couples that's always had a signature song or one of you is an avid, avid music lover, it's also something that takes a good bit of research. How fast should the tempo be? Should you go with a classic? What about a new hit? What message should it send? What should it actually say?

It's the last point that's, often, the hardest. Say you like a song and it's on your running list of contenders, but once you sit down and actually listen to the lyrics word-by-word, you realize it's not saying what you need it to say. Hey, it happens, and especially so when you have to avoid anything written about the traditional boy-meets-girl romance. To help you out, we asked Aaron Thurston of Lucy Music in Brooklyn to share his top been-there-done-that tips on finding a first dance song that pleases you, your partner, and your crowd that's watching.

Ask your band (or DJ) to get creative.

So, what if your favorite ballad has endless uses of he and she? Your wedding band can rearrange it to fit your first dance — make it shorter, change the lyrics, and even add your names. Using a DJ? Easy: Have her hunt down a gender-appropriate cover.

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That said, most great love songs are universal, and plenty of classics are gender free and awesome — no edits required. An easy rule to go by? "Try finding one that's about the feeling of love, not the people involved," says Thurston.

And, finally, lose the idea of the 'perfect' song.
If nothing's really speaking to you, remember that the music is just the background to the moment. "There are plenty of great songs that will work, and unlike choosing a partner, I think it's OK to settle," says Thurston.

Still not sure what jam to go with? Here are 10 songs we can get behind.

1. "At Last," by Etta James

2. "All of Me," by John Legend

3. "You Are The Best Thing," by Ray LaMontagne

4. "First Day of My Life," by Bright Eyes

5. "Make You Feel My Love," by Adele

6. "Fly Me To The Moon," by Frank Sinatra

7. "The Nearness of You," by Norah Jones

8. "Thinking Out Loud," by Ed Sheeran

9. "How Long Will I Love You," by Ellie Goulding

10. "Exception," by Paramore

See More: How to Choose Who Walks Down the Aisle at a Same-Sex Wedding

Good Luck Topping This Insanely Over-the-Top Proposal, Featuring 50 Dancers, Four Costume Changes, and a Lip Dub

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Jun 102016
 

Pack up and go home, y'all. There's just no topping this crazy romantic proposal. This groom-to-be officially takes the crown. After five years together, DeAndre Upshaw of Dallas, Texas, decided to propose to his boyfriend, Stuart Hausmann. And while some may just take their sweetheart to a nice dinner to pop the question, Upshaw on the other hand called upon a cast of 50 dancers, a costumer, videographers, photographers, and of course a jeweler, in order to pull off the proposal of his beau's, your's, our's, everyone's dream. Seriously, guys. We. Are. Dead.

The proposal, which took place on June 4, actually got its start four months prior when Upshaw began planning the special day. Four months to just plan the proposal? Just imagine how intense their wedding planning will be... According to Revelist, Upshaw drafted a five page (!) document detailing his vision, then called upon the Danielle Georgiou Dance Group to help with the choreography while he set to work recruiting dancers, finding costumes, and flying in his future in-laws so they could witness the big (and we mean big) moment. "I work in production and am very used to creating detailed schedules," the groom-to-be explained. Yeah, we'd say... "We had a secret Facebook group that I invited everyone to, and posted videos of dance rehearsals to it."

After those rehearsals and many months of planning details, the day had finally arrived. Upshaw told his now fiancé that they were going to brunch, but of course he had something else up his sleeve. (Honestly, we probably would've just settled for brunch.)

The pair drove to a local middle school, where Upshaw lead Hausmann to the back of the car, where he sat a pair of headphones atop his head. Then the music (and our hearts!) started swelling. Upshaw began dancing and lip synching to Tegan and Sara's "Closer" (the two had previously fallen in love with the song when they attended a concert together back in 2013), as a slew of dancers dressed in rainbow-colored choir robes joined in. Before long, there were ribbon dancers, flag spinners, and even the couple's friends and family dancing along, as Hausmann looked on totally overwhelmed. Oh yeah, and there were giant cardboard cut-outs of the pairs' faces. After nearly five minutes of crazy choreography, costume changes, and stellar surprises, the whole thing cumulated with Upshaw getting down on one knee, a tearful and resounding yes from his hubby-to-be, and a confetti pop (because, of course).

Watch the whole video above and we dare you not to cry.

See More: What to Do When the Proposal Doesn't Go How You Envisioned It

The Biggest Hurdles Real Same-Sex Couples Faced While Wedding Planning

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Jun 012016
 
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Just because it's legal doesn't mean it's easy. As we approach the anniversary of the Supreme Court's historic marriage-equality decision, real couples tell us the biggest hurdles they faced in planning their wedding — and how they overcame them. Liz Feldman, writer/producer on CBS's 2 Broke Girls, along with four other real brides share what tripped them up in their wedding planning and how they solved it.

When I was asked to write some introductory lines for Brides's same-sex wedding-planning guide, I got a little choked up. Just a few years ago, it was illegal for me to get married. The government had given us civil unions and domestic partnerships, but it wasn't the same. We weren't equal.

I met musician Rachael Cantu in 2008, and within a year, I was 6,000 percent sure I wanted to spend my life with her. With Rachael I'd found true comfort and absolute joy. We wanted to give a solid foundation to our future children, but we were forbidden to marry by DOMA (Defense of Marriage Act, signed into law by President Clinton in 1996) and California's Proposition 8 (stating that marriage was between a man and a woman). All I wanted was to wear a cute white suit, stand up in front of my friends and family, and promise to love this woman forever. So in 2012, I flipped Prop 8 the finger and proposed to Rachael. She said, "Wait! Is this really happening!?" followed by a "Yes, of course!" A few months later, she proposed back with a song she wrote.

In May 2013, I walked down the aisle to that song at our backyard wedding. It was the best day of my life; it just wasn't legal.

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Photo: Courtesy Liz Feldman

To cover our bases, we flew to New York, which had legalized same-sex marriage, and had another wedding in Brooklyn. But even that wasn't federally recognized. We'd gotten married twice and were still being denied the legal bounty that straight married couples enjoy, like Social Security benefits and hospital visitation rights. Then, in 2013, the Supreme Court overturned Prop 8 and DOMA. And last year, when the Court made marriage equality the law of the land, I and so many others experienced the moment we'd fought for, cried over, and dreamt of. So it's now my pleasure and honor to write this, as I am finally, happily, legally married in all 50 states.

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My Father Disapproved
Both Amy Kaufman and Victoria Estevez pride themselves on being ready for anything. Amy, 46, is a transportation planner handling logistics for New York City events, and Victoria, 32, is an executive producer at a marketing firm. So when it came to pulling off their Brooklyn wedding, they didn't sweat the planning. But they did worry about how Victoria's dad would react to the news that they were tying the knot. "I'd never come out to my father, but I think he knew," says Victoria. Announcing her engagement, she was matter-of-fact. "I said, 'Dad, I'm getting married to a woman in about a year,'" she says. Her dad's reply was equally succinct. "He said, 'I love you, but I'm not coming and I'm not getting involved,'" Victoria says. Neither father nor daughter ever spoke of it again. In a way, Amy says, she was relieved he wouldn't attend: "I didn't want him to ruin the day with negativity." Amy's parents helped with everything from picking out flowers and attending cake tastings to visiting venues. Meanwhile, Victoria's mother rallied the extended family. "I have an uncle and aunt — my mother's siblings — who are both gay," says Victoria. While Amy's parents walked her down the aisle, Victoria's aunt and uncle escorted her. "It was such a big deal for them," she says, that their pride overshadowed her father's absence. "It didn't seem like a 'less-than' situation," recalls Amy. "We enjoyed a gorgeous, stress-free day surrounded by people who support us."

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"Our Song" Skewed Hetero
Ashley and Samantha Kiley-Roche had been together for five years when they decided to get married. "We shared a home and a dog, and the timing just felt right," says Sam, 31. Serious music lovers, they were looking forward to their first dance, but when it came to choosing a song, they hit a snag: "Our first choice was 'Home,' by Edward Sharpe and the Magnetic Zeros," says Ashley, 30. But it features a man and woman singing to each other, which felt discordant. For six months they pored over their extensive music collection, and they finally came to a compromise. "Rather than the traditional slow dance, we decided to pick an upbeat option," she says. In the end, they chose "You Are the Best Thing," by Ray LaMontagne, which felt exactly right. "It's one of our favorites, and he just says 'you,'" says Ashley. There was another musical highlight: When the DJ played "Same Love," by Macklemore and Ryan Lewis, a rap ode to same-sex relationships, guests formed a circle on the dance floor, holding hands and singing along. "Every few seconds, someone else would join," marvels Ashley. "Straight couples, gay couples, my mom's oldest friend from high school, all swaying back and forth. It was like the most amazing, most beautiful moment from the corniest movie ever."

See more: How to Find the Right Officiant For Your Same-Sex Marriage

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We Didn't Feel Welcome at Our Resort
Victoria Lanteigne, 33, and Livia Lam, 39, were scrupulous about booking an LGBTQ-friendly venue and vendors for their Baltimore wedding. But when planning their honeymoon, "we didn't give it much thought," admits Victoria. The couple chose Thailand for its culture and cuisine, plus its mix of beaches for Victoria and city for Livia. Relaxed and besotted, they arrived at their upscale resort to start their honeymoon. That they'd made the wrong choice was immediately apparent: "At check-in, when we told people we were on our honeymoon, we were met with a murmured congratulations," Victoria recalls. "We were subject to a few stares from staff and some of the other guests." And when a friend had a bottle of champagne sent to the couple's room, it was addressed to "Mr. and Mrs. Lanteigne." Feeling subdued and self-conscious, they weren't comfortable being affectionate, so they left the resort, forfeiting their deposit, and checked into Phulay Bay in southwest Thailand. "We ended up having a great time and loving the country," says Victoria. "But we learned the hard way that you should think about the comfort level your destination has with LGBTQ couples."

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The Court Clerk Refused to Do Her Job
Everything about the wedding of Shawnte and Tavia Craig-Jackson went smoothly, aside from the driving rain that forced them to move their backyard jazz-themed ceremony under a tent and the reception indoors. But when the couple relocated from District Heights, Maryland, where they wed, to a small town in Georgia, they ran into problems. "We didn't experience bigotry from a government perspective until we moved," says Shawnte, 35. The couple had decided to hyphenate their names. "I went to change my driver's license, and the clerk at the DMV refused," says Tavia, 43. Even though the couple had brought along their marriage license, "the clerk insisted that in the state of Georgia, we needed to present the application for the license," Tavia recalls. This set off a 10-minute debate between the clerk and her higher-up. "We were probably the first gay couple they'd dealt with since the Supreme Court decision," says Shawnte. Adds Tavia, "I'm from Los Angeles. We don't have this kind of problem; it's the capital of 'do what you want to do.'" In the end, the supervisor ordered the name change and the couple got what they wanted: "My driver's license reads Shawnte Craig-Jackson."

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A Vibrant Backyard Wedding in Georgetown, Inspired by a Hot Air Balloon Proposal

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Feb 262016
 
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Photo: Jose Villa

Sometimes the very best things happen when you least expect it. Just ask David Barnhart and Kevin Ford, who first met when David hired Kevin as a personal trainer. "We became best friends, and the rest is history!" says David. In August of 2013, Kevin and David both knew they wanted to get married. They decided to propose to each other, so they took a secret trip to Napa Valley. "Kevin surprised me. He had the rings we'd bought [to eventually use as wedding bands] with him on our sunrise hot air balloon ride, and we spontaneously exchanged rings and proposed to one another," says David. Their planners, Jamie and Kate of Simply Chic Events, latched on to the hot air balloon theme, infusing the grooms' reception with vibrant hues and mixing in woven elements to mimic the balloon baskets.

An unexpected twist? The weather. The original plan had been an intimate Friday evening ceremony for 110 guests in their Georgetown backyard on June 13, 2014, followed by a formal dinner at Tudor Place, a gorgeous property across the street, and then a festive bash for 230 the next evening. "A few days before the wedding, we realized it was going to be pouring, so we changed the schedule," says Kevin. Instead, they had a formal pre-wedding dinner on Friday night, then asked the guests to come to their home on Saturday before the party to witness the backyard ceremony. Once vows were exchanged, they headed to The Powerhouse for the reception. "We were lucky that the ceremony was at our home, so we could change the schedule as needed," says David. And even with the hiccups, it was absolutely stunning. But don't take our word for it — see the breathtaking details below, photographed by Jose Villa.

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A combination of neutrals and textures added depth to the invitation suite, with contemporary calligraphy and gold elements blending perfectly into the modern design.

While they didn't have favors, Kevin and David put together welcome bags for out of town guests, with elements from both of their hometowns as well as their current home in D.C. They added baseballs for the kids, Georgetown Cupcakes, and milk jars as a nod to the dairy farm where David grew up.

Kevin and David wrote notes to one another to share before their ceremony, and had their calligrapher, Angelique Ink, write out the letters onto gorgeous gray paper.

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On Friday, guests gathered for cocktails at Tudor Place before heading to the sailcloth dinner tent.

The grooms opted for gray and blue suits for the Friday evening dinner, reserving their tuxedos for the Saturday night bash.

As guests made their way toward the tent, servers carried trays displaying the escort cards, written on stained birch wood in white calligraphy. "The wooden cards were fresh and unexpected, while the tray presentation felt formal," says Kevin.

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Photo: Jose Villa

Inside the tent, a mix of round, rectangular, and long tables were topped with barely blue Irish linens. Punchy centerpieces of peonies, tulips, spray roses, freesia, and kumquats were arranged down the center of the table, accented with polished candlesticks and white pillar candles. In the corner of the wood-floored tent, an upholstered bar was flanked by arrangements of greenery and kumquats. At each guest's place, a wicker placemat was topped with a gold charger and set with gold flatware.

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Woven baskets hung from the ceiling, bringing in an extra element from the grooms' balloon engagement in wine country.

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The abundant flowers and candlelight were a beautiful combination of organic, loose elements and refined details.

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Tented wooden table numbers matched the escort cards. The grooms didn't offer signature cocktails, but they did have kumquats on-hand as a garnish to match the design scheme. "We wanted our guests to enjoy their favorite drinks, not ours," laughs David.

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"We wanted our guests to feel like they were at an intimate dinner party," says Kevin. The menu included sea bass en papillote, eggplant rollatini, and a trio of miniature desserts. They also passed boozy adult popsicles in flavors like Mojito and Bourbon Peaches 'n Cream.

"We saved our first dance until Saturday night, when we had all of our guests with us," says Kevin. A friend MC'd the evening, helping them turn their celebration into an over-the-top rehearsal dinner. "She adapted her script to talk about how we were about to get married, instead of how we were just married," Kevin continues. Adds David, "It took us a while to settle in to having all of the attention. We were nervous about the changes, but it ended up being even better this way: It gave us a night to settle down and start enjoying the weekend."

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Photo: Jose Villa

The next day, the grooms got ready for their ceremony together, an idea they borrowed from their photographer. "Jose told us how much he loved getting ready with his husband before their wedding, and we're so glad we listened to him," says Kevin. "We laughed, we cried, we even panicked — but it was together as a couple." David and Kevin loved having their ceremony in their backyard, as they were able to share a moment watching their guests arrive from an upstairs window.

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A platform over the pool created plenty of space for stained wooden benches with linen cushions.

At the ceremony, David and Kevin exchanged traditional vows, administered by the grooms' two sisters. "We wrote our own vows to exchange during the party later that night, which were serious but also a little funny," says David. "We wrote them as the rain came in a few days before our wedding. It really centered us and calmed us down."

Kevin's black-on-black tux and David's dark blue tux with black lapels embodied their "festive formal" dress code.

Vibrant Backyard Wedding in Washington, DC, Hands

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At The Powerhouse, guests who weren't at the ceremony snacked on passed hors d'oeuvres and sipped margaritas as they waited for the newlyweds arrived. "We wished we could have fit everyone in our backyard, but this was a great second option," says Kevin. The videographer played a personal introduction video, then Kevin and David got on stage to exchange their personal vows before going straight into their first dance and a dance to "True Colors" by Cindy Lauper with their mothers.

"We felt that we had a lot of freedom planning our wedding, because we didn't have as much of a 'script' as a gay couple," says Kevin. "Whether you're gay or straight, just be yourself! Embrace that freedom and plan the wedding you really want, instead of being trapped in a box."

Ceremony Venue: Private Residence || Friday Reception Venue: Tudor Place || Saturday Reception Venue: The Powerhouse (now closed) || Wedding Planner: Simply Chic Events || Kevin's Tuxedo: Canali, from Barneys New York || David's Tuxedo: Isaia, from Barneys New York || David & Kevin's Shoes: Salvatore Ferragamo || Wedding Bands: De Beers || Floral Design: Amaryllis, Inc. || Invitations & Paper Goods: Haute Papier || Calligraphy: Angelique, Ink || Custom Signage: Paper Tangent || Music: Elan Artists, Party On The Moon || Catering: Susan Gage Caterers || Cake: Cakes by Colin || Rentals: Party Rental Ltd., La Tavola Fine Linen || Videographer: Monachetti Weddings || Photographer: Jose Villa

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Nathan Lane and Longtime Love Devlin Elliot Have Tied the Knot

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Nathan Lane is Married

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After 19 years of romance Nathan Lane and longtime love Devlin Elliot tied the knot this week. According to People, the 59-year-old Tony winner and the producer and playwright wed in "a small ceremony in New York City" at City Hall on Tuesday.

"Nathan and Devlin were married in a small ceremony in New York City this week. Everyone is extremely happy," a representative told People.

The pair together shares a 9-year-old French bulldog named Mabel, and have written a children's book about their beloved pet called Naughty Mabel, according to E! News. "She's become our version of a child," Elliott told USA Today of the small dog. "Really all she wants is for you to pick her up and hold her like a baby."

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Lane added, "She's a little neurotic and needy at times. It's like living with a supermodel. And now that she's become a celebrity, you know, it's very difficult."

Lane famously declared his sexual orientation in 1999 after the killing of 21-year-old Wyoming college student Matthew Shepard. "If I do this story and say I'm a gay person, it might make it easier for somebody else," Lane told The Advocate at the time.

According to E! News, shortly before The Producers star started dating Elliot nearly two decades ago, he replied to an Us Weekly reporter's question about his sexual orientation with, "I'm 40, single and work a lot in the musical theater. You do the math."

Congratulations to the happy couple!

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