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5 Types of Groomsmen You’ll Find at Every Wedding

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Oct 312016
 
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No two weddings are alike, but it seems like the same type of peeps are always standing by the groom's side. On the one hand you've got the trusty married man who keeps everyone else in line (or at least tries) and on the other, you've got the single and super ready-to-mingle friend who can't take his eyes off all the bridesmaids. Here are the five most common types of groomsmen you'll find at every wedding.

1. The Party Starter
This guy can barely contain his excitement throughout the ceremony, as he's just itching to get out there on the dance floor and get the party started. He's fun loving, loud at times but definitely the dude you want around because he keeps all the other guests moving and grooving to the music. He can also make small talk like it's his job, which is a wonderful skill to have at a wedding. The only time you'll actually see him leave the dance floor is to refill his drink, duh.

2. The Single-and-Ready-to-Mingle Groomsman
You know that one groomsmen you warn all your single bridesmaids about? Well, this is that guy. He's on a mission to make out (more if can find someone willing, of course) with any gal who will give him the time of day at the wedding. He relies on a lot of liquid courage, and watch out, because chances are he can be quite the charmer. Either that, or he turns into a total hot mess after too many adult beverages.

3. The Married, Responsible One
Chances are, he's also the best man. He likely organized the entire bachelor party, is set to give a speech the day of and has been besties with the groom since they were on the same soccer team in middle school. You definitely don't have to worry about him getting wasted on Jack Daniels the day of. He's clean cut, his wife and the bride-to-be are also close, and he all around has his you-know-what together.

See More: 20 Unique Groomsmen Gift Ideas

4. The Serial Groomsman
He's been in at least 27 weddings (okay maybe we're exaggerating a little here) already! Thank goodness he doesn't have to buy a new tux every time though or this dude would literally be broke. He's friends with everyone, and it's easy to see why; he's such a nice, outgoing and generally great guy. You can count on him to show up on time, deliver a solid speech if need be and entertain a room of total strangers. Plus, he looks pretty darn good in a suit too. By now, he has the whole groomsman duties thing down pat, which is just an added bonus.

5. The Overachiever
Oh yes, there's always one in every wedding. He takes his job as a groomsman very seriously and always want to give a speech or toast, which he's probably practiced every day for the past month leading up to the wedding. No way this guy's just winging it! You can bet your ass his gift to the bride and groom will outshine everyone else's too because that's just how this groomsman rolls. Let him plan the bachelor party and it's sure to be something epic with a billion activities to boot.


BRIDES Southern California: 5 Shops to Get the Perfect Wedding Tux in Los Angeles

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Oct 282016
 
Best Los Angeles Wedding Tuxedo Shops Local Brides

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There's no shortage of bridal shops in LA, but when it comes to shopping for a tuxedo, grooms aren't blessed with as many options. Nevertheless, there are a handful of shops in Los Angeles that stock sharp, handsome tuxedos for the big day. From Hugo Boss to Bloomingdale's, here are five shops in LA where every type of groom can find their dream tux.

Mr. Tuxedo
Mr. Tuxedo boasts three collections—platinum, gold, and silver—to fit every wedding budget. Here, you'll find a variety of different tuxedo styles in a range of colors including white, navy blue, black, and dark grey to suit every groom's individual style. Grooms can bring in their groomsmen too to make sure the entire wedding party looks good for the big day. Read real brides' reviews here!

Friar Tux Shop
With numerous locations in Southern California, Friar Tux Shop makes it easy and convenient for grooms to pick out their perfect tux. Grooms can try on tuxes for free and work with an in-house stylist to find the most flattering fit. The shop also stocks a variety of accessories to complete the wedding day look including ties, pocket squares, socks, shoes, and shirts. Be sure to check out their exclusive Michael Kors collection too. Read real brides' reviews here!

See More: When in LA, why not explore beachfront venues? Browse dozens of gorgeous SoCal wedding locales on our L.A. Venues page!

Hugo Boss
Hugo Boss' formalwear collection oozes elegance and sophistication. Stop by the brand's Sunset Boulevard store to peruse their collection of polished tuxedos made from premium wool silk blends. Find everything from classic black tuxedos to non-traditional velvet or metallic sports jackets, as well as all of the accessories needed to complete the look including Italian calfskin dress shoes, brass cufflinks, and luxurious dress shirts.

Bloomingdale's
Just like brides, grooms deserve to look like the best version of themselves on their wedding day and that means wearing the best of the best. To find the best tuxedos in town, grooms can head to Bloomingdale's and explore their stunning collection of tuxedos by top-name brands including Ted Baker, Theory, Ralph Lauren, Canali, Armani, and many more. Read real brides' reviews here!

Burberry
Nothing says modern luxury quite like a Burberry tuxedo. Made from sumptuous fabrics woven in Italy—think cashmere, silk, and mohair—the fashion house's stylish tuxedos boast modern and slim fits to flatter every type of groom. The ultimate Burberry wedding day look includes a striking tuxedo jacket accented with satin notch lapels paired with virgin wool tailored trousers in a relaxed silhouette.

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Who Walks the Groom Down the Aisle?

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Oct 232016
 
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Once the details are picked, the décor is set, and the guests are seated, it's time to head down the aisle to begin the wedding ceremony! While we've covered all the options you have to get the bride down the aisle, the groom has to get there, too — but how? Our experts have the details on the many ways the groom can get down the aisle at his wedding ceremony.

How the groom walks down the aisle (and with whom) often depends on the type of ceremony the couple is having, including both any religious affiliations and the formality.

In a traditional Jewish ceremony, the groom walks down the aisle behind the officiant, escorted by both his mother and his father. He then waits outside of the chuppah to greet his bride, while his parents take their place beneath the chuppah.

For a traditional Catholic wedding, the officiant will lead the groom, followed by the groomsmen. They may enter from the side and simply walk to their places at the altar, or they may walk down the aisle, with the officiant leading the way.

See more: The Ultimate Guide to the Wedding Processional Order

In a Hindu wedding, the groom makes a grand entrance during the baraat, where he arrives on a highly-decorated horse accompanied by his family and they all are welcomed by the bride's family. Then the bride's parents escort the groom to the mandap, where the ceremony takes place.

You have a number of other options to consider, too. The groom may opt to escort his mother down the aisle and to her seat in the front row, followed closely behind by the groom's father. This gives the groom an opportunity to give his parents a hug before taking his place at the altar. The groom's parents can also walk down the aisle together, followed by the groom as he walks alone. And of course, the bride and groom can create their own tradition and choose to walk down the aisle together, symbolizing the beginning of their journey as a couple!

Now This Has to Be the WORST Best Man’s Speech Ever…

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Oct 182016
 
Worst Best Man Speech Ever

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Uh-oh! We hate to break it to you, but whether your bridal bun is more Bride of Frankenstein or the wedding party's limo never arrives, wedding day disasters can — and do — happen. But as the BRIDES October/November 2016 issue proves, brides-to-be can survive any catastrophe. (Trust us!) In our latest issue, real and very brave brides are sharing their wedding nightmares. These major mishaps might have you clutching your pearls, but don't worry — everyone still had their happily ever after. See? Brides can handle anything! Still don't believe us? Read one of the catastrophic wedding day tales below.

I have an unusual job. I'm a dating coach for smart, strong, successful women. I have a long history that involves a failed screenwriting career, 300 online dates, and four books I wrote about relationships. But finally, after 10 years of dating and five years of coaching, I found lasting love. Instead of choosing the female version of me (my previous pattern, and, yes, even the experts do that), I landed a warm, patient, easygoing woman who accepted me 100 percent as I was.

Unfortunately, that meant that for the six months before our wedding, she had to accept my groomzilla tendencies. My wife, Bridget, had been married before, but this was my first rodeo, and I wanted the party to perfectly reflect my personality. So I found the location, tasted the food, booked the band, created the wedding website, and so on. And it all came off flawlessly — the pre-wedding karaoke party, the personalized vows on a yacht at sunset, the choreographed salsa dance...

Then came the speeches. My best man had been my roommate and screenwriting partner for years. He was brilliant, funny, and charismatic, and he knew me better than anybody. He was also a flake with a flair for the dramatic. I'd seen him give a rambling, drunken 20-minute toast at his sister's wedding, so I made him promise not to drink at mine. To his credit, he didn't, which made what happened next all the more unfathomable.

In his quest to make the "greatest speech ever," he forgot the best-man playbook: Tease the groom about his old dating habits, tell the bride she's too good for him, and give a quick toast. No, this best-man speech didn't even mention the groom or bride. It was like an Andy Kaufman-esque piece of performance art. After about 20 minutes, when our 110 guests began murmuring amongst themselves, I told him to wrap it up. He obliged. But the next thing I knew, the kitchen's swinging double doors opened and the service staff hoisted a heavy refrigerator box onto the sweetheart table in front of us. The box was moving. I slowly peeked in. Suddenly, out popped a dwarf in a jester's costume.

"Holy fucking Christ," I screamed into the mike. I looked up to see Bridget's Irish Catholic family, only feet away, with grim looks on their faces. I heard my college friends in the back of the room, cackling. I saw Bridget with a stiff smile on her face, knowing that the entire room was looking at her. The performance was cut short, and everyone went into damage-control mode. The maid of honor spoke about her 20-year friendship with my wife, akin to sisterhood. My two brothers-in-law spoke about how love is an action verb. My mom spoke. My mom's new husband spoke. Unplanned speakers spoke, all to compensate for the train-wreck best man and his unusual "gift" (which was supposed to be a hilarious allusion to an old screenplay we'd written).

See More: 50 Mistakes Grooms Always Make

Now, you may be wondering what Bridget was thinking. In those fateful moments after the disastrous speech, she was calm, cool, and collected — fully aware that everyone was staring at her and determined not to overreact to something beyond her control. I looked at her in those panicked moments of utter mortification and fed off her no-drama demeanor. It calmed me down, as it has endless times in the eight years since that day.

A wedding is a metaphor for marriage if there ever was one. You plan, you communicate, you try to control things, and then life happens and throws a costumed little person at you. It's how you react that determines your marital happiness. My wife managed to placate her family, unruffle my feathers, and assure the guests that one bad speech wasn't going to dictate the tone of the rest of the night. And while we would much rather be known as the yacht wedding than the dwarf wedding, that's okay. Thanks to the formula Tragedy + Time = Comedy, even my straitlaced in-laws can now tell our story with a smile — although they never quote my reaction to the dwarf verbatim.

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Now This Has to Be the WORST Best Man’s Speech Ever…

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Oct 182016
 
Worst Best Man Speech Ever

Photo: Getty Images

Uh-oh! We hate to break it to you, but whether your bridal bun is more Bride of Frankenstein or the wedding party's limo never arrives, wedding day disasters can — and do — happen. But as the BRIDES October/November 2016 issue proves, brides-to-be can survive any catastrophe. (Trust us!) In our latest issue, real and very brave brides are sharing their wedding nightmares. These major mishaps might have you clutching your pearls, but don't worry — everyone still had their happily ever after. See? Brides can handle anything! Still don't believe us? Read one of the catastrophic wedding day tales below.

I have an unusual job. I'm a dating coach for smart, strong, successful women. I have a long history that involves a failed screenwriting career, 300 online dates, and four books I wrote about relationships. But finally, after 10 years of dating and five years of coaching, I found lasting love. Instead of choosing the female version of me (my previous pattern, and, yes, even the experts do that), I landed a warm, patient, easygoing woman who accepted me 100 percent as I was.

Unfortunately, that meant that for the six months before our wedding, she had to accept my groomzilla tendencies. My wife, Bridget, had been married before, but this was my first rodeo, and I wanted the party to perfectly reflect my personality. So I found the location, tasted the food, booked the band, created the wedding website, and so on. And it all came off flawlessly — the pre-wedding karaoke party, the personalized vows on a yacht at sunset, the choreographed salsa dance...

Then came the speeches. My best man had been my roommate and screenwriting partner for years. He was brilliant, funny, and charismatic, and he knew me better than anybody. He was also a flake with a flair for the dramatic. I'd seen him give a rambling, drunken 20-minute toast at his sister's wedding, so I made him promise not to drink at mine. To his credit, he didn't, which made what happened next all the more unfathomable.

In his quest to make the "greatest speech ever," he forgot the best-man playbook: Tease the groom about his old dating habits, tell the bride she's too good for him, and give a quick toast. No, this best-man speech didn't even mention the groom or bride. It was like an Andy Kaufman-esque piece of performance art. After about 20 minutes, when our 110 guests began murmuring amongst themselves, I told him to wrap it up. He obliged. But the next thing I knew, the kitchen's swinging double doors opened and the service staff hoisted a heavy refrigerator box onto the sweetheart table in front of us. The box was moving. I slowly peeked in. Suddenly, out popped a dwarf in a jester's costume.

"Holy fucking Christ," I screamed into the mike. I looked up to see Bridget's Irish Catholic family, only feet away, with grim looks on their faces. I heard my college friends in the back of the room, cackling. I saw Bridget with a stiff smile on her face, knowing that the entire room was looking at her. The performance was cut short, and everyone went into damage-control mode. The maid of honor spoke about her 20-year friendship with my wife, akin to sisterhood. My two brothers-in-law spoke about how love is an action verb. My mom spoke. My mom's new husband spoke. Unplanned speakers spoke, all to compensate for the train-wreck best man and his unusual "gift" (which was supposed to be a hilarious allusion to an old screenplay we'd written).

See More: 50 Mistakes Grooms Always Make

Now, you may be wondering what Bridget was thinking. In those fateful moments after the disastrous speech, she was calm, cool, and collected — fully aware that everyone was staring at her and determined not to overreact to something beyond her control. I looked at her in those panicked moments of utter mortification and fed off her no-drama demeanor. It calmed me down, as it has endless times in the eight years since that day.

A wedding is a metaphor for marriage if there ever was one. You plan, you communicate, you try to control things, and then life happens and throws a costumed little person at you. It's how you react that determines your marital happiness. My wife managed to placate her family, unruffle my feathers, and assure the guests that one bad speech wasn't going to dictate the tone of the rest of the night. And while we would much rather be known as the yacht wedding than the dwarf wedding, that's okay. Thanks to the formula Tragedy + Time = Comedy, even my straitlaced in-laws can now tell our story with a smile — although they never quote my reaction to the dwarf verbatim.

Evan Marc Katz is a dating coach and author of 4 books, most recently "Believe in Love." If you're a smart woman who wants to understand men and find love, look him up at www.evanmarckatz.com.

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The Groomsmen’s Oh-So Simple (Yet Super Important) To-Do List

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Oct 172016
 

While bridesmaids have a whole list of responsibilities, being a groomsmen sounds, er, pretty easy. Rent a suit, get dressed on time, and escort a bridesmaid down the aisle. Pretty basic, right? The job description may be simple, but that doesn't mean there aren't a few things the groomsmen should keep in mind before they head down the aisle. Our experts have put together a list of things groomsmen can't forget to do — before the ceremony begins.

Check the Boutonnieres
Take a gander around the group. All boutonnieres should be on the left lapel, and should be pinned in the same orientation. For floral boutonnieres, this means the flowers pointing up, angled ever-so-slightly toward the left shoulder (running parallel to the inner edge of the lapel, where the jacket meets the shirt).

Spit Out Your Gum
You might be surprised to see the planner or venue coordinator holding out their hand for groomsmen to spit out their gum before they walk down the aisle, but it happens pretty frequently! Save the embarrassment and dispose of your gum in advance. You don't want to be that guy with a wad of gum in his mouth in his buddy's wedding video!

Put Down Your Phone
Not in your coat pocket, not in your back pocket. Take your phone out of your pocket and put it away — we'd recommend alongside the bridesmaids' purses so it doesn't get misplaced. Even the thinnest of phones will stick out in your pocket, especially in a lighter-colored suit. Empty pockets means smoother pants and jackets, which means better photos!

Perfect the Details
Make the rounds and ensure everyone's tie is tied correctly and is straight and flat. Button your jacket, make sure it's laying flat over your shirt, and brush off your shoulders and lapels. Then stand up straight, offer your arm to a bridesmaid, and smile!

See more: Does Our Wedding Party Have to Sit Together at the Reception?

Oct 072016
 
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Choosing your wedding day attire is an opportunity to both embody the style and dress code you've chosen for your wedding and also express your personality, and a same-sex wedding is no exception! Whether it's two brides or two grooms, you should walk down the aisle in something that makes you feel your best. While two brides wouldn't expect to wear the same outfit for their wedding, should two grooms wear the same suit or tux, or should they opt to each wear something that speaks to their personality? Here are some tips from our experts.

Good news! There is no rule requiring that two grooms need to match as they walk down the aisle. You should, however, consider keeping your attire coordinated — both to fit your wedding's dress code and to match with the style or theme of your celebration. For example, if you're having a black tie wedding, you might opt to wear tuxedos with different finishes (such as a peak vs. a shawl collar lapel, or satin vs. matte details) or in different hues, with one in a dark navy tuxedo and the other in black or slate gray. You could choose to accent your looks with creative bow ties, or one could don a straight tie instead.

For a more casual wedding, you also have similar options. Whether it's suits in different shades or cuts, the addition of a coordinated vest, or a colorful tie, embrace the opportunity to express your style and personality while still making sure you both fit in with your wedding's dress code and theme (and stand out amongst the guests!).

If you do choose to wear outfits that match more closely, consider shopping at the same store and shopping together. Standing side-by-side in the dressing room in the same suit or tux, you'll get a pretty good idea of whether it's a look you love or if the matchy-matchy feels like it's too much. Shopping in the same store and looking at attire from the same brand will also ensure that your suits are the exact same shade of gray or black, versus trying to match fabrics across brands and designers.

See More: 5 Ways to Reinvent the Traditional Tux

Men Reveal What They’re REALLY Looking For In A Wife

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Oct 062016
 
Men Reveal What Theyre Really Looking For In A Wife

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What is it men are REALLY looking for when it comes to love and marriage?

We think we have an idea of what the "perfect" woman is, but it seems like no matter what any of us do, we are constantly falling short of that mark.

It's hard to get guys to open up about what they really want in a marriage partner, because let's face it, you can't ask this question when you've just started dating someone.

And you can't exactly ask this question when they dump you. You just kind of have to hope it all works out and you meet the marriage checklist of his expectations.

But thanks to one question-asker on Reddit, we now have insight into what exactly men are looking for in a wife, and how they decide it's time to settle down and get married.

I may sound jaded but I was pretty sure I knew what I'd find on this list when I sat down to read through the mountain of replies.

I felt pretty sure that looks would rank as the number one quality all men sought out in their marriage partner.

But it turns out that most men aren't looking for just a pretty face. Not by a long shot.

They had a lot of insight to share about how they picked their wives.

For some, it was about so much more than some arbitrary list, it was about the individual.

"Someone who genuinely likes me instead of some checklist of qualities that I managed to get a pass on."

Other men reported that the decision to marry almost wasn't conscious, but a result of time, interpersonal chemistry and that ineffable feeling of connection.

"My wife loves me for who I am. It wasn't about who she thought I could be, or who she thought she could make me into, but just wanted to be with me. Despite all my flaws and weird habits she still wanted to be with me. Even with all of her flaws and weird habits, I still wanted to be with her. Sometimes, things just click together, and it's not something you realize right away. I probably didn't start to think about marrying my wife until after we were dating for a year. I've now known her for over 10 years, and our 8 year wedding anniversary is coming up this fall."

Some men pointed out that while a marriage is a work, your feelings for your partner shouldn't be.

"Maybe it's just a male perspective but things that have an emotional basis, like romantic relationships, should be simple. If you have to work to justify being with someone you probably shouldn't be with them."

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For other men who responded, the idea of marriage wasn't even in the equation. It was only when they met a woman whose life plan didn't send them running that they knew they were ready to take that next step.

"I think my marriage has worked because I wasn't actually looking for a wife - I just happened into one. She was the most interesting girl I ever met, she was smart and attractive and mostly nice, and I feel in love naturally. She said she wanted kids and to be married, and somehow that didn't scare the hell out of me."

Some men revealed that they need to be with a woman who isn't afraid to challenge them, a woman who understands that fighting isn't just something that HAPPENS in a relationship, it can actually make your marriage that much stronger.

"I want someone that I can argue with (and who will argue with me), without it turning into a fight. Someone that can call me on my BS when it matters, who isn't going to flip out if I call her on hers. I'd much rather be with someone who will challenge me and make me rethink things than someone who is trying too hard to be nice and sweet all the time. (Then again, I may just have a thing for hot tempered girls.)"

See More: 4 MUST-DO Tips For A Successful Monogamous Relationship

The most touching thing to me was important it was for men that their partners love THEMSELVES. The idea that you aren't ready for marriage until you've started learning how to love yourself seems to be really important to so many men.

"She loves what she does, she cares about herself as much as she cares about me and she smiles a lot :) Bonus: she likes the same music as me."

When men on Reddit responded to this question and discussed how a woman's looks impacted a marriage, it was almost always to say that looks fades and that there are other things that are so much more important to building a strong marriage.

"Values. You have to have values that have some intersection. Looks, health, wealth, all changes, but of those values seem to remain the most over a longer period of time."

"So, the hottest woman in the world, but hates to learn and read? Good bye. An attractive, affluent person, but tramples on others dignity? Bye."

See More: How To Find Love (And Know It's For REAL This Time)

The most touching answers revealed that in a nutshell, men want exactly the same thing that women want. They want a partner in life, who isn't scared to be fully themselves with another person.

"If we can laugh our assess off together about something silly, share the glory of a big indulgent meal, fall asleep watching/reading something stupid together, get trapped in a shitty situation and laugh at it because it's a shared adventure..."

"I had a huge checklist before I met my wife. There was only a single thing on that list I would never overlook: A genuinely kind hearted person."

This article originally appeared on YourTango.

Why You Shouldn’t Stress About Strippers at His Bachelor Party

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Sep 222016
 
Strippers at Bachelor Parties

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Every week, we give our readers a glimpse inside the mindset of a guy's brain on weddings with the help of the hilarious and smart editors at The Plunge.

Let us put it to you plainly: Don't worry about strippers at our bachelor party.

Men hire strippers for two reasons. The first is obvious — we like to have beautiful naked women sitting in our laps. The second is more subtle, but just as important. We hire strippers to bond with other men.

That might seem counter-intuitive, but think about it: If we wanted to have sex with a strange woman, would we really invite our friends, cousins, siblings, parents and future in-laws to watch?

You know the phrase "bros before hoes?" Sure, it's juvenile and offensive, but it does get at an essential truth about guys: we like to feel connected to our fellow men. Aside from war, golf, and Fight Club (which obviously we can't talk about), the most intense form of male bonding is bragging about women. Telling crazy stories, making shit up, and generally lying through out teeth — these are all ways we establish our connection to other guys.

Getting married, however, is the ultimate refutation of "bros before hoes." We're setting aside our "bros" and acknowledging you as the most important person in our life. (Sorry, that makes it sound like you're the "hoes" in this example — you're not, it's just such a good rhyme). The bachelor party is a final dip in the pool of idealized singledom, a farewell to a lifestyle we probably gave up years ago (if we ever really led it at all).

See More: Should You Be Worried About Wedding Hook-Ups? THIS is What Your Groom is Telling His Friends

The image of the crazy, sex-drenched bachelor party is a powerful one, but the reality is a usually more prosaic. As pointed out in this article and this article — both written by women who've worked a lot of bachelor parties — for the most part guys just want to get drunk and hang out. The strippers are only there for an hour or so and they most definitely don't want to sleep with the groom or any of the guests. They aren't sexual adventurers, they're just professional entertainers trying to make a living. They've done this hundreds of times. Your fiancé is the man of your dreams, not theirs. To them, he's just another guy handcuffed to a chair with his shirt off, about to be humiliated in front of his friends and family.

What about the worst case scenario, the one in which your fiancé has sex with one of the strippers? No doubt that does happen sometimes. But here's the thing: A bachelor party is not going to make your man cheat on you if he isn't already prepared to do so. If you're worried about his behavior now, you should really be worried about his behavior later.

Why Grooms Don’t Give a Damn About Most Wedding Details

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Sep 132016
 
Grooms and Wedding Planning

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Every week, we give our readers a glimpse inside the mindset of a guy's brain on weddings with the help of the hilarious and smart editors at The Plunge.

Ladies, we understand. You're planning a wedding with the precision of the Allies landing at Normandy, so it's no wonder you get pissed if we seem to zone out when certain subjects come up. C'mon: you wouldn't have asked us if the bridesmaids should be carrying calla lilies or tulips if you didn't want us to chime in, right?

Sorry, we men aren't falling for it. We know that your interest in our opinion is inversely proportional to how much of it we actually express. The more we speak up, the less you'll want to hear what we have to say.

Which is fine, because, typically, we aren't that interested in the flower arrangements anyway, nor the china patterns, nor the question of which calligrapher we should hire to write the place settings.

It's not that we don't have aesthetic preferences, it's that they are completely useless when it comes to planning a wedding. The game console with the best graphics? That we can tell you. What color Porsche you should buy when you get rich? We've got you covered. Who has the coolest uniforms in the NFL? Don't get us started...

See More: Should You Be Worried About Wedding Hook-Ups? THIS is What Your Groom is Telling His Friends

If there is one thing men respect, it's expertise. If there is one thing we abhor, it's someone trying to fake expertise. When it comes to flowers, china patterns, and table settings, you are the expert. Anything we say on these subjects will just highlight our ignorance. We'll be faking it without making it.

Besides, what if we do have a strong opinion about the china pattern? Do you really want to have to negotiate that with us? Don't you have enough to worry about as it is? You know you're going to get your way in the end anyway, so why put the both of us through that? Let's save up our energy for all the legitimate issues we'll have to fight over in the years to come.

Remember, the wedding day means more to you than it does to us (note that we said "wedding day" there, not "marriage.") We didn't spend any of our childhoods fantasizing about walking down the aisle — we were too busy eating our own boogers, collecting Pogs and picturing Scarlett Johansson naked. The wedding represents the beginning of our time as husband and wife, and sometimes the best thing a husband can do is keep his mouth shut.

So don't be offended if we fail to contribute to certain decisions — it's not indifference, but strategy. Your troop transports are heading for the beaches — we're just trying to get out of the way.

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