3 Wedding Day Looks Mothers of the Bride Should Avoid

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Nov 072016
 
Mother of the Bride Dresses to Avoid

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It used to be that the biggest concern a bride had about her mother's wedding outfit was that the mother of the bride didn't wear anything close to white. In my opinion, nobody is supposed to wear white, except the bride. But it's doubly inappropriate when it looks like the mother of the bride is trying to steal attention away from her own daughter.

I don't think Emily Post could have even conceived of some of the atrocious mother-of-the-bride outfits I've had the pleasure of seeing in almost 10 years of wedding planning, or she would have dictated some stricter rules.

It isn't the really ugly dresses that stand out in my mind — those were entertaining, but not all that memorable. The ones I cannot get out of my head stood out for entirely different reasons. Reasons that would made any logical mother realize that she absolutely, positively should not have worn that outfit in public, much less to her daughter's wedding. Here, the top 3 wedding day looks mothers of the bride should steer clear from.

Avoid the See-Through Look
I don't care how fashionable sheer fabrics are, you must be very, very careful that you're not showing off everything when you are backlit in your wedding outfit. On more than one occasion, I've actually cringed through an entire wedding ceremony when, from my angle, with the sun setting behind them, I could see EVERYTHING but the mother of the bride's dress. Her bra was completely visible, but so was her thong.

I've seen this exact same peep-show over and over again at "white" weddings, where everybody is asked to wear all white clothing. In one unfortunate case, the bride's mom had a horrendous wedgie, in very sheer white organza pants. And the guests stood through the ceremony. That wedding photographer had to do A LOT of editing.

Avoid Showing Too Much Skin
Lightweight, colorful maxi dresses are wildly popular at summer and tropical weddings, but not everybody can wear them well. And wearing them well means having the appropriate undergarments to keep everything in place, not just having enough fabric there to cover your private parts. I understand the challenge of finding something summery with enough strap to cover my bra. I also know how hard it is to find the right bras that offer support, and can be hidden, under the most popular strappy looks.

Too often, we see mothers of the bride in dresses that do not flatter their shape, or properly cover their curves. I don't care if the dress supposedly has a built in bra, if you've got C-cup or bigger, you need more support than some stitching inside an organza dress can ever provide.

See More: 5 Tips to Soothe a Stressed Mother of the Bride

Avoid Being a Showstopper
It's your daughter's big day, and you want to look good. But you shouldn't choose a dress that stands out in a big way from the way all the other guests. For example, if your daughter's having an afternoon wedding on the beach, and cocktails and dinner in a tent, it's not the time to choose a full-length beaded gown. It's also not the time to bust out a brightly-sequined cocktail dress of questionable length.

Sandy Malone is the owner of Sandy Malone Weddings & Events and author of How to Plan Your Own Destination Wedding: Do-It-Yourself Tips from an Experienced Professional. Sandy is the star of TLC's reality show Wedding Island, about her destination wedding planning company, Weddings in Vieques.

The Pros and Cons of Making Mom Your Matron of Honor

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Oct 192016
 
Pros And Cons Of Making Your Mom Maid of Honor

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There's a trend toward more intimate weddings in recent years, with many couples opting for only a best man and maid of honor, in lieu of a large wedding party. It's also been more popular lately to include parents in the actual wedding party, asking dad to stand up as best man, and grandma or mom to be matron of honor.

It's sweet to see a bride standing with the matriarchs of her family, making the next big step in her life. But there are pros and cons to having your mom in your wedding party.

The Pros
- If your mom is your best friend in the world, it's fabulous to have her next to you as you exchange vows with your life partner. There couldn't be a stronger support than what you receive from the woman who raised you.

- It's unlikely that your mom will get drunk and disorderly at your wedding, so you can probably count on her to help you out from the time you start getting ready until you say goodbye to the last guest.

- Your mom is probably more honest with you than your bestie, especially when it comes to telling you the straight up truth about some of your wedding-day decisions not being the best ideas. Whether it's your wedding dress and she warns you that your gown is slightly unflattering from behind, or predicting that those gorgeous heels you want will feel miserable after 15 minutes, mothers are more realistic about your feelings. They know it's better to tell you the painful truth up front than let you limp around looking less than stellar at your wedding.

See More: The Wedding Planning Decisions You Should Always Consult Mom On

The Cons
- Mom can't throw your bridal showers (at least she's not supposed to, according to the most basic etiquette), and she isn't the best choice for planning your bachelorette party either if you're looking to entertain friends your own age. While she can certainly recruit friends to do the heavy lifting for those pre-wedding events, you might find some girlfriends bitter about getting the work when they're not in the wedding.

- Your parents are responsible for entertaining their friends who are invited to your wedding. If Mom has to spend a bunch of time doing MOH duties, such as helping you with your dress every single time you need to use the bathroom, she's going to miss far more of the party than she should.

- Your mom has a VIP guest of honor role at your wedding, even if she doesn't have a spot on the altar. If you want to involve her more, you have the option of asking her to read part of the ceremony. However, your best girlfriend may get hurt feelings if she's not asked to take a named position beside you. It's important to talk with your BFF and explain your reasoning before you make — and publicize — your decision, to mitigate the damage to your relationship.

Sandy Malone is the owner of Sandy Malone Weddings & Events and author of How to Plan Your Own Destination Wedding: Do-It-Yourself Tips from an Experienced Professional. Sandy is the star of TLC's reality show Wedding Island, about her destination wedding planning company, Weddings in Vieques.

Here’s What to Do If You Really Don’t Want Mom’s Help Planning Your Wedding

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Oct 122016
 
How To Tell Mom You Don't Want Her Help

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Most moms assume they will be a part of their daughter's wedding planning. And that's natural, especially because back when most of our mothers got married, their parents planned their weddings, without a whole lot of input from the bride or groom.

That trend started shifting about 25 years ago, with brides and grooms getting more and more involved in the wedding planning process. At the same time, couples started paying for more of their own weddings, too. It's rare today to find the parents picking up the entire tab for their children's wedding. Now, many weddings are planned by the bride and groom with very little help (advice or financial) from their moms and dads.

Unfortunately, cutting mom out of the wedding planning process can result in some seriously hurt feelings if she's been planning your wedding day in her head for a long time. And that may be the exact reason you don't want her to be involved — because you know she will try to take over. But even if you're justified in your concerns, it would be totally unproductive not to take your mom's feelings into account. So, in my professional opinion, here's how to talk to her about it, in a thoughtful and considerate way.

The Sooner, The Better
You need to sit down and have a serious conversation with her soon after your engagement, because if she's already working on lists, you need to nip it in the bud before she's put in a lot of time and energy. Do it someplace private, in case either of you cries during the conversation.

See More: Wedding Planning Tasks the Mother of the Bride Can Help Her Daughter Handle

Be Prepared With a Compromise
Pick one thing you WANT your mom to do for your wedding, and be prepared to offer it out to her if things don't go well when you tell her you want to plan your wedding solo.

Listen to Her
Explain to mom that while you appreciate that she'll be there for you IF you need advice, you and your fiancé want to plan your wedding yourselves (and pay for it, because you can't completely shut her out and treat her like an ATM). Sketch out your overall plan so she doesn't feel like you're trying to keep her in the dark, and listen if she feels like she has to offer advice. You don't have to take it — you've just told her you may not. But she's still your mother and you owe her the respect of just listening. Telling her that you don't want to hear it will just make things worse.

You Might Still Want Her Two Cents
If your mom surprises you by being a really good sport about your request that she let you plan your own wedding, you might end up asking for her opinion on things more frequently than you had anticipated. You don't give up your planning autonomy by inviting her to go dress shopping or cake tasting with you. If you don't like what she has to say about your favorite, ignore her and buy it anyway. It's about letting her feel like she's a part of your big day, even if she didn't plan it, more than anything.

Sandy Malone is the owner of Sandy Malone Weddings & Events and author of How to Plan Your Own Destination Wedding: Do-It-Yourself Tips from an Experienced Professional. Sandy is the star of TLC's reality show Wedding Island, about her destination wedding planning company, Weddings in Vieques.

BRIDES New Jersey: The Best Mother-of-the-Bride Dress Boutiques

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Oct 082016
 
Mother-of-the-Bride Dress Boutiques in NJ

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Most brides have been dreaming of their wedding day their entire life, but they're not alone. One very special person has done the same and is important to recognize — your mother. She's been by your side through every important milestone, and now at your most important one, she deserves to shine like the star she is. Be sure to visit these top New Jersey mother-of-the-bride boutiques together to ensure your mom looks (and feels) her best on your big day.

Castle Couture
Enter through Castle Couture's doors to a bridal wonderland, featuring everything a mother of the bride could dream of needing for their daughter's wedding day. Exquisite evening wear, dazzling accessories and in-house seamstresses make castle Couture a one-stop-shop for mothers of the brides. Their extensive Evening Wear department showcases stunning gowns and cocktail dresses that will suit any style wedding by designers including ALYCE Paris, Pronovias, Tarik Ediz, and Jovani Evenings, among many, many more. Read real brides' reviews here!

Dressed to the Nines
This full-service bridal boutique — located in Morristown — acknowledges the important (and glamorous) role of being the mother of the bride (and groom). Updated-yet-classic looks are what Dressed to the Nines specializes in, and the store will leave you feeling just that — dressed to the nines! With an extensive selection of designers including Rena Di Montella, Junnie Leigh and Paula Varsalona, this boutique is a go-to for the MOB/MOG looking for a glamorous look for their child's big day. Read real brides' reviews here!

Gisele's Unique Shop
Located in Warren, shop owner Pat O'Brien and her staff have been dressing women for momentous occasions in their lives since 1996. Aiming to have each client look and feel their most beautiful, this boutique focuses on the total experience — rather than "just" the dress. Carrying designers that include Gail Garrision and Flores and Flores, as well as impressive jewelry and accessories to complete your look, Gisele's Unique Shop promises an unparalleled and personalized shopping experience while completing the most beautiful ensemble.

See More: Get Mom and Your Bridesmaids Wedding Ready with The Help of These Local Makeup Artists

Jan's Boutique
About 70 miles outside of NYC, Jan's is certainly worth the trip. First established in 1974, Jan's has since expanded to a 50-dressing room storefront providing over 100 name brand designers, a shoe and accessory department, and an alterations department that guarantees your dress will fit like a glove. With the focal point of the business being on the mother of the bride and groom, Jan's is certain to have what you're looking for — and for those uncertain of what that is, their professional and courteous sales consultants will help each customer realize their perfect look for such a special occasion. Browse through over 10,000 dresses in stock from sizes 000-32, and your mama will be rocking a fabulous gown without question. Read real brides' reviews here!

Bernstein's Fashions
For over 60 years Bernstein's Fashions have been providing elegant, ready-to-wear and custom-made formal evening gowns for mothers throughout New Jersey. Located in Edison, this evening wear boutique carries sizes 4-16 and showcases some of the most talented designers from both the US and Europe — including Jovani, Ideas by Barbara, Lourdes Chaves, and more. Hosting seasonal trunk shows and offering in-house expert alterations, Bernstein's has everything a mother of the bride needs for looking stunning on her little girl's big day.

Browse even more local bridal boutiques for your mom's gorgeous gown — or even your own! — here

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6 Ways to Your Make Mom Feel Needed During Wedding Planning

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Oct 042016
 

Sometimes you really need your mom, and other times moms just need to feel needed. Weddings are one of those times when you'll either be begging her for her help or she'll be constantly pestering you about what she can do to help (typical mom, right?). Whether you're a total control freak or a really laid-back bride though, here's how to get mom involved in the wedding planning process without sacrificing your wants and desires.

1. Fill her in on everything
You don't necessarily need to have her attend your search for a wedding dress or your reception menu tasting, but just communicating with your mom and allowing her to feel as though she is a part of your life goes a long way to make her feel needed, points out Greg Jenkins, founder of Bravo Productions.

2. Ask for help with tasks that don't require opinions
Like addressing, stuffing and stamping envelopes or assembling favors, says Chancey Charm Charlotte wedding planner Miranda Tassi. "This gives you the opportunity to spend time together, but if you're a more controlling bride, doesn't allow for opinions to get into the middle of your quality time."

3. Play to her strengths
What does mom do best? If it's baking, have her make homemade cookie favors, suggests wedding planner Aviva Samuels of Kiss The Planner. Is she Mrs. Organized? "Ask her to help you prioritize the tasks that lie ahead of you. If caregiving is her thing, ask her to pack the emergency kit with every kind of health and beauty aid she can get think of so that when shoe inserts, headache medicine, body tape or tissues are in demand, she can feel needed all throughout the day."

See More:How 5 Brides Nearly Lost Their Sh*t Thanks to Their Moms

4. Have her track RSVPs or assemble welcome bags
A simple thing to have mom do is to track your wedding RSVPs. By rule, if your parents are doing the inviting, the RSVPs should go to her anyway, tells Tracie Domino, founder of Tracie Domino Events. "You can also have her help you with selecting items and assembling your hotel welcome bags. She might even want to get a group of her friends together to do this one night and then just check that off the list."

5. Ask for her input on final design decisions
Narrow down some of your favorite ideas from your wedding day design and then let her help you decide, recommends Francesca DiSalvo-Follmer, owner of Pure Luxe Bride. "It'll be nice to have her feel as if she's a part of it, and you know you've already narrowed it down to some fabulous choices you love." Basically, it's a win-win for everyone.

6. Ask for emotional support
So what if your mom doesn't have the DIY skills to help you plan your wedding? She may be able to play the 'therapist' role you need to vent to and open up with your thoughts and concerns, notes Jenkins. "Many mothers can just appreciate they're loved and will happily continue to be there for you throughout the planning process."

How 5 Brides Nearly Lost Their Sh*t Thanks to Their Moms

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Aug 312016
 
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No matter how much you love your mother, she's bound to get on your nerves — even on your wedding day. That was certainly true for these five brides, who are here to share how their moms drove them completely crazy during the wedding planning process.

"My mom and I fought incessantly about the guest list. She insisted I invite family members I hadn't seen or spoken to years. Then, two of the guests cancelled just three days prior to our wedding date, and they didn't even have decency to tell me directly. They told my mother, who did not tell me. Instead, she let the seats go empty and paid for rather than letting me know so I could let a few people join last minute. I am still mad about it eight years later. She should be embarrassed to have fought so hard for these people who clearly did not care about us, never sent a gift, never apologized for cancelling last minute — all so that I could have fewer of my friends attending the wedding as a result." — Michele

"As if it wasn't bad enough that my mother completely overtook the planning process, she also overtook the wedding day. I'm pretty sure all my vendors wanted to kill her. She argued with my hairstylist about the best way to pin my updo. She told my photographer how to arrange us in posed photos. She told the limo driver which route to take us to the church. I felt so embarrassed the whole day." — Tara

See More: 5 Common Wedding Fights You Might Have With Your Mom

"On my wedding day, my mother persuaded everyone to convince me to not wear my glasses while walking down the aisle. It was hard for me to see, and I nearly fell. My groom rescued me as we walked up the steps." — Ruth

"My mother was one-of-a-kind. Nothing made her happier than when her two girls got married. The problem is she wanted to invite 1,000 people — 700 of whom we did not know. For my wedding, we had to create an A List and a B List. Only after the A List RSVPs came in did we plan to send the B List their invitations. But my mother took the B List and mailed it before the A List responded. We got lucky because many of our A List guests responded that they couldn't come, so we were able to accommodate the B List guests." — Lisa

"It sounds sweet, but my mom couldn't stop crying on our wedding day. Like, she sobbed nonstop. It started long before I even had my dress on and continued to the end of the reception. I was so worried about trying to comfort and calm her down that I had trouble focusing on how I was feeling — other than stressed, of course." — Abigail

Michelle Obama’s Blue Dress Killed It at the DNC — Here’s How to Rock the Look at a Wedding

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Jul 262016
 
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Michelle Obama killed it at the Democratic National Convention last night, and we don't just mean with her inspiring speech. Wearing a bold royal blue fit-and-flare dress by Christian Siriano (one of our favorite newlyweds), FLOTUS was glowing — perhaps it's that feeling when the pressure is off and you're not trying to get your husband elected.

All eyes were on Michelle Obama as she took the stage at the Democratic National Convention to lend her support for presumptive Democratic presidential nominee Hillary Clinton. And of course, our eyes were on what Mrs. Obama was wearing — as always! The perpetually stylish FLOTUS rocked a royal blue Christian Siriano dress for her big DNC moment (he's having a good month, isn't he?), and had us at BRIDES wondering, how do we channel this look for a wedding? The answer is easy. Mrs. Obama's look makes the perfect mother-of-the-bride dress, as well as an amazing color choice for your bridesmaids. With a figure-flattering silhouette, cap-sleeves, and bright color, it's a great choice for mothers of the bride or groom looking for comfort, style, and sophistication. Want to get the look of Michelle Obama's DNC dress? In short, maxi, and even backless, here, are a few styles we think will have any mom channeling FLOTUS. And don't forget to take another style cue from Obama by pairing this color with silver accessories like her pointy toed pumps and amazing geometric earrings.

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Pleated crepe dress, $65.66, Adrianna Papell available at Nordstrom

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Woven fit and flare dress, $198, Alfred Sung available at http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/alfred-sung-woven-fit-flare-dress/3677658?origin=category-personalizedsort&fashioncolor=ROYAL" target=new>Nordstrom

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Resume sheath dress, $188, J.Crew

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Ribbed stretch-jersey dress, $225, Michael Michael Kors available at Net-a-Porter

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Ponte Cap Sleeve Sheath Dress Cobalt, $54.99, Necessary Objects available at Target

This isn't the first time FLOTUS has embraced a homegrown fashion choice. Obama has been a strong supporter of American designers, frequently choosing pieces from the likes of Jason Wu, Tracy Reese, Michael Kors, and even J.Crew for many of her big first lady moments. Even at her first DNC in 2008, Mrs. Obama supported designer Narciso Rodriguez (the one responsible for Carolyn Bessette-Kennedy's iconic wedding dress), wearing a black and red dress. Like Kate Middleton, who has the ability to sell out any piece she wears, when FLOTUS wears a dress, get ready to see copycats and for a quick sellout.

Melania Trump also made headlines for her fashion choice at last week's Republican National Convention when she chose a wedding dress by Roksanda for her speech. We can all agree, despite their differing politics, these are two very fashionable ladies.

The 3 Times Brides Should Definitely Listen to Mom During Wedding Planning

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Jul 252016
 

As we grow older, we learn the truth: Mother really does know best. But just because moms are usually right doesn't mean that daughters always take their advice. Especially when it comes to weddings.

The excitement, stress, and drama of planning a wedding can sometimes skew a bride's perception of things, and that's when it is important to listen and hear the advice your mother is giving you. While she's emotionally invested in your happiness, she may have a clearer head about individual situations.

Remember, your mom is on your team and wants you to be happy, even if she doesn't always agree with your decisions. You may not do what she tells you to do, but make sure you don't tune out her advice about the following three things:

Choosing a Wedding Dress
You are a reflection of your parents. Not just the physical characteristics you share, but the choices and decisions you make as well. Your mother wants you to look your best on your wedding day, no matter what current trends may dictate. She may realize a critical mistake you're making that you will regret in later life, such as showing entirely too much skin for a church ceremony, or choosing a wedding gown that isn't super flattering for your body type. Even with the best of intentions, your friends may not want to tell you that you're better suited in a different style. Your mom won't lie to you, even if it hurts your feelings, because she knows you'll be happier in the end.

Wedding Guest Drama
Something that would usually be a simple disagreement with a close friend or sibling can explode, in the blink of an eye, under the stressful weight of wedding planning. Your mom realizes the angst is situational, and she doesn't want you to do something dramatic that might hurt your relationships long term, so it's a good idea to follow her suggestion if she tells you to take it down a notch. More than one bridesmaid would have been fired, or sister demoted from the position of maid of honor, if mom hadn't intervened.

Dealing With In-Laws
Chances are, if you don't like your future mother-in-law, your mom probably isn't her biggest fan either. With that said, your mother has (most likely) been married and dealt with becoming a new family before. And she's well aware of the long-term repercussions of stupid decisions made for emotional reasons. You may not like your fiancé's mother much before the wedding, but she has the power to make your relationship hell in the future, should she choose to do so. Use your mom as a sounding board, and take her advice about dealing with it, rather than constantly complaining to your fiancé. It can cause a rocky start to the marriage if you can't learn to get along with his family. And it will be worse if you choose to have children together.

See More:
30 Emotional Mother-of-the-Bride Moments

Sandy Malone is the owner of Sandy Malone Weddings & Events and author of How to Plan Your Own Destination Wedding: Do-It-Yourself Tips from an Experienced Professional. Sandy is the star of TLC's reality show Wedding Island, about her destination wedding planning company, Weddings in Vieques.

The 4 Things Brides and Their Moms Will Fight Over During Wedding Planning

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Jul 182016
 
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Not all brides fight with their mothers during wedding planning — just most of them. I admit it, I wasn't as nice to my mom as I should have been during my wedding planning. I believe brides are hardest on their mothers because we know they love us unconditionally, and they understand how stressed out we are about the wedding.

That doesn't mean moms let their daughters off the hook, especially if they have a close relationship. If anything, some mothers of the bride are willing to go to war with the bride if they feel strongly she's making the wrong decision. When the parents are picking up the tab, all bets are off.

Interestingly, I've learned from listening to my clients over the years that most mothers of the bride and their daughters argue the most about the same four things:

1. The Registry
Despite the fact that the gifts are for the couple getting married, and mom will only see those gifts when she visits her daughter's new home, most brides report that involving mom in their wedding registry is a nightmare. While the current trend in registries is to be non-traditional — think registering for a honeymoon fund or cooking classes — a lot of mothers are unhappy that their daughters aren't registering for at least 12 place settings of formal china and crystal.

2. The Guest List
When our mothers got married, their parents took the first whack at the guest list so that they could include all the family, friends, neighbors, and business associates whose children's weddings they'd attended. Brides and grooms were given a number of guests they could invite by the bride's parents. Now, more couples are paying for their own weddings, and could care less about inviting friends of their parents whom they've never met. On the flip side, moms hold grudges, and don't like to see friends who haven't been good to you in the past on the list, either.

3. The Wedding Dress
Face it, plenty of wedding gowns are strapless now, and a lot of dresses are quite revealing. Yes, less fabric is in sync with current fashion trends, but there are a lot of mothers of the bride who lay down the law about what is too much skin to display while going down the aisle. Several brides have told me that was the reason they wore a different dress to the reception — they compromised by wearing mom's choice down the aisle, and their choice to celebrate afterward.

4. The Wedding Party
Although it's perfectly acceptable to have someone other than your sister as your Maid of Honor, that may not fly with mom. Traditionalists will want all your siblings, and possibly first cousins, included in the wedding party, even if that means you won't have room to ask your friends to be bridesmaids. Brides have pretty firm opinions to the contrary, and this can get ugly if your mother has a particular dislike for any of the people you and the groom are including, based on personal experience.

See More: 8 Fights Every Couple Has During Wedding Planning

Sandy Malone is the owner of Sandy Malone Weddings & Events and author of How to Plan Your Own Destination Wedding: Do-It-Yourself Tips from an Experienced Professional. Sandy is the star of TLC's reality show Wedding Island, about her destination wedding planning company, Weddings in Vieques.

5 Things Every Mother of the Bride Should Have on Hand for the Wedding Day

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Jul 112016
 
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The mother of the bride is usually a VIP wedding guest, responsible only for enjoying herself and entertaining the guests. However, it's a good idea for her to be prepared with a few basic supplies on the wedding day, just in case something unexpected goes wrong.

The goal is to be so well organized on the big day that none of these back-up items that Mom brings in her magic bag will be needed. But the way Murphy's Law works, chances are her daughter will only have those emergencies if she isn't prepared to cope with them.

All the mother of the bride needs to do is fill a small tote bag with a few key items:

1. A mini bridal emergency kit with safety pins, aspirin, Benadryl, Imodium, and tampons. Most wedding professionals will not hand out any medication — we're not even supposed to give you Advil — because our liability insurance prohibits it. Unfortunately, strange things happen to our bodies when we're under a lot of stress. I've seen brides break out in hives on the morning of their wedding, and others spend the entire day locked in the bathroom because their tummy is acting funny. Mom should be prepared to treat any eventuality, just like she was when her daughter was little.

2. Fabric scissors are a must.
Regular scissors will destroy most fabrics, and if you have errant threads on the wedding party's outfits, or God forbid, the wedding dress, you don't want to risk doing more damage than good in your efforts to remove it. Most wedding venues don't have good scissors handy when you need them.

3. Freeze a bottle of water and wrap it in a soft hand towel. It's going to be a long day, and sometimes you need something wet and cold handy on short notice. The towel will keep it from sweating on everything else in the bag, and you can use the towel to gently blot the bride's face when she gets sweaty. Paper towels are more likely to destroy carefully applied bridal makeup. A wet towel, or frozen bottle of water, held to the back of the neck can help revive a bride who is feeling light-headed.

4. Shout wipes always come in handy at the wedding, although hopefully the mother of the bride will not need them for the bride's gown. Guests spill on themselves, and members of the wedding party have accidents, too. Once a mom, always a mom — some will look to the mother of the bride for help fixing the problem.

5. Bring a disposable razor in case a member of the bridal party has forgotten to shave her armpits on the day of the wedding. Crude as it may sound to whip a razor out and hand it to someone, it's better than letting a bridesmaid go less-than-groomed down the aisle in a strapless dress.

See More: 6 Easy Ways to Make the Mother of the Bride Happy

Sandy Malone is the owner of Sandy Malone Weddings & Events and author of How to Plan Your Own Destination Wedding: Do-It-Yourself Tips from an Experienced Professional. Sandy is the star of TLC's reality show Wedding Island, about her destination wedding planning company, Weddings in Vieques.

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