7 Wedding Tasks to Give to the Mother of the Groom

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Jul 262016
 

If you think you'll be alone when it comes to getting some of the nitty gritty wedding planning done, think again! It may be likely that you have a squad of best friends who are more than willing to help. You may even be lucky enough to your own mother and the mother of the groom wanting to conquer your wedding to-do list with you. But, if you're starting to field calls from the mother of the groom, asking you questions about what she can do to help, instead of telling her you'll let her know when something comes up, prepare yourself now with tasks that she can do. That way, she won't think that you don't want her involved and she won't start doing wedding tasks on her own that you didn't want her to do at all. To get you started, here is a list of seven duties you can pass along to the mother of the groom.

1. Welcome Bags

You'll want someone to take on the task of getting welcome bags put together for out of town guests. You can coordinate a theme with her and even let her know the kinds of items you'd like in the bags. Then, as you're scrambling to do things the last few weeks before the wedding, your mother-in-law-to-be will have the guests' bags under control.

2. Help With the Seating Chart

This task is super important to get the MOG on board to help out with, especially if she's inviting a lot of her friends and family members to the wedding. She can provide you with the insight you need to make sure guests are sitting where they'll feel the most comfortable.

3. Co-Plan the Bridal Shower
Your bridal party will be a special pre-wedding celebration for you and all your girls. If your Maid of Honor or your mother want to plan this, ask if the mother of the groom can be a co-planner too.

4. Help Get RSVPs
Having trouble getting the grooms side of the family to send in their RSVP cards? Sometimes all it takes to know if a guest is coming or not is a quick phone call or text message — which is easy when it comes directly from the mother of the groom.

5. Arrange Transportation
It's likely this task may fall at the bottom of your list — or even worse, slip your mind. But of course, you'll need a way to get to the wedding venue and back. The last thing you'll want to do is ask your guests to call cabs at the end of the reception. Ask the MOG to help set this up once you know logistics for your venue and hotel.

6. Lend a Hand With the Registry
If the MOG has good taste or knows how to decorate well, get her involved with picking out the items you should register for. Besides it checking off something major on your to-do list, it will make her feel like she has an instrumental part in helping you start your lives together.

7. Come With You for a Dress Fitting
It'll mean the world to your future mother-in-law if you invite her to one of your dress fittings. If you're nervous to have a lot of people see you in your dress beforehand, make the fitting social media- and picture-free.

See More: What to Do If the Mother of the Groom Is Making Wedding Planning a Nightmare

Jen Glantz is a "Professional Bridesmaid" and the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire. She's the author of All My Friends Are Engaged and frequently wears old bridesmaid dresses to the grocery store and on first dates.

6 Conversations to Have With Your Future Mother in Law BEFORE You Marry Her Baby

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Jul 012016
 


How To Win Over Future Mother In Law


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No matter how much you already get along with your future mother-in-law, before you find yourself decked out in the wedding dress of your dreams, about to marry the love of your life, it's important to sit down and have a heart-to-heart conversation with the mom of your beloved. Now that you're joining the family, and maybe even filling some of the roles in your S.O.'s life that mama used to take care of, you have to make sure you have your bases covered and expectations set. Wondering what the important topics to cover are? Here are seven convos to have with your future mother-in-law before your walk down that aisle.

1. What's One Thing I Should Know?
Kick things off by having a conversation with your future MIL about things you should know about her son or daughter that you may not know already. She may tell you some funny stories or even show you photos from childhood that you'll never let your soon-to-be spouse forget.

2. How Do I Deal With Him When He's Hungry?
Because everyone can use a little info booster on how to pick someone out of a hangry mood — salty, sweet... what snack will do the trick?

3. You Know I'm Not Pushing You Out of His Life
Make it clear to her that while you're going to be the person who spends the most time with her son, he'll always be a mommy's boy — you're not pushing her out of his life. This will provide her with a huge hug of comfort.

4. You Can Be In Charge of Certain Holidays
If there are some traditional holidays that your future MIL likes to host at home, let her know you'd still like to do them at her house, and pick up any holidays that she doesn't feel strongly about.

5. We'll Talk Kids When We're Ready
Since there's a ring on your finger, your future MIL may already be riding the kid train. Let her know that you'll open up the gates for baby talk when you and your fiancé are ready.

6. You'll Always Be His Mom
Say it again and again: she'll always be his mom, and there are certain things and roles that only a mother can do and fill.

See More: Real Brides Share Heartwarming Mother-in-Law Stories (You'll Wish These Were Your MILs!)

Jen Glantz is a "Professional Bridesmaid" and the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire. She's the author of All My Friends Are Engaged and frequently wears old bridesmaid dresses to the grocery store and on first dates.

6 Ways to Include the Mother of the Groom in Wedding Planning

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Jun 282016
 
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Whether you're the kind of person who loves to plan parties or someone who practically breaks out in hives when it comes to making any type of decision, when it comes to planning a wedding, there's no doubt that having a team of people to turn to for advice and help will make the process a way more enjoyable and stress-free experience. That is, only if you know how to delegate. Between relying on your own mom for wedding planning help, and handing out tasks to your bridesmaids, your future mother-in-law might feel a little left out of the process. Our solution? Let her eagerness dissipate your stress. If you have a ready- and willing-to-help mother of the groom, here are eight simple ways you can include her in your wedding planning process.

1. Give Her Specific Tasks
Chances are the mother of the groom is going to text you, call you, stop by in person and ask how she can help out with any and all things relating to the wedding. Instead of having her take on some tasks you'd prefer to do yourself, give her a list of things she can take ownership of and make her own, so she doesn't accidentally (or purposely) step on your toes.

2. Ask Her to Come Along With You
Heading to a cake tasting or dress fitting? Give the mother of the groom a ring and invite her to come along with you. Just including her in little things like this will be almost gigantic things for her.

3. Put Her in Charge
If you're dealing with a very type-A mother of the groom, the best way to handle her is to put her in charge whenever you need a break from making decisions. Say you can't decide between three different photographers, let her make the final choice. Giving her doses of power like this will help make her feel involved.

4. Let Her Know Your Non-Negotiables
Some mothers of the groom like to plan things and make wedding decisions for you, without you. If there are certain things you absolutely want control over, let her know what they are so she has a heads up that she shouldn't step on your toes.

5. Pull in a Detail From Her Wedding
One of the nicest things you can do is include a detail, item, or tradition in your wedding from her own big day. Maybe you can use framed photos from her wedding or even serve the main dish that she had at her reception.

6. Let Her Pick Out Her Dress
You may want to keep control over what your bridesmaids wear, but let the mother of the groom pick out her own dress. There's nothing better than a supportive mother of the groom wearing a dress in which she feels ultra confident.

See More: What to Do If the Mother of the Groom Is Making Wedding Planning a Nightmare

Jen Glantz is a "Professional Bridesmaid" and the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire. She's the author of All My Friends Are Engaged and frequently wears old bridesmaid dresses to the grocery store and on first dates.

The Best Flowers to Give Mom on Mother’s Day

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May 062016
 
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Who doesn't love giving (and receiving) beautiful flowers? Beyond their gorgeous aesthetic and sentiment, each individual flower has a rich history, tradition and meaning or symbol behind it. With Mother's Day right around the corner, BRIDES has created a guide to the best flowers with special meanings to include in your Mother's Day bouquets and gifts this year.

Tulip (Above)
Adding color and their popular, classic shape to bouquets everywhere, tulips have a rich history and a variety of meanings, depending on color. Similar to the red rose, red tulips are associated with true love, while white tulips reflect notions of forgiveness and yellow tulips are said to express cheerfulness.

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Orchid
One of the most popular home planted florals, the Orchid is both beautiful, and exotic. This specific type of flower is actually a flowering plant, and is available in a variety of colors. Perfect for Mother's Day gifting, the pink orchid is said to represent femininity and grace.

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Peony
Widely known for being the flower to signify honor and richness, these beauties are also extremely common in pre-made, ready to purchase bouquets — perfectly convenient for Mother's Day. Some also consider these blooms to be an indication of a happy marriage, which must be why they're so popular among brides!

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Rose
Red, yellow, pink, white, and even rainbow — roses are quite popular as gifts of endearment and rightfully so. The traditional red rose is often used as a symbol of love, while pink roses symbolize admiration and gentleness. Love neutral flowers? Cream colored roses signify thoughtfulness — a beautiful way to say "thank you" (for everything!)

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Carnation
Also available in nearly every color of the rainbow, carnations generally symbolize love, with each unique color also meaning something more. Most appropriate for Mother's Day, the pink carnation carries meaning of mother's undying love. (Also, carnations are the traditional flower for 1st wedding anniversaries!)

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Sunflower
Not only do these beauties give off spring and summer vibes, these are also one of the most useful flowers with a rich history amongst Native Americans. Turning to face the sun when still planted in soil, they also are said to express happiness and warmth, similar to the shining sun. (It's the 3rd wedding anniversary flower, too!)

Our 6 Favorite Ways to Honor Your Mom on Your Wedding Day

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May 062016
 
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There's a good chance your mom is almost as excited about your wedding as you are — and with good reason! She's been dreaming about this day since you were born, after all. Whether you've designed every detail with her by your side, taken her with you to go dress shopping, or want her to be as surprised as your guests when she walks into your reception, it's a big day for her, too. And while moments like walking down the aisle and father-daughter dances are usually designed with Dad in mind, we think Mom deserves some special recognition, too. Here are six of our favorite ways to honor your mom on your wedding day.

Have a First Look
Even if your mom is the only one who really knows how to help you into your wedding dress and finagle all those buttons, make sure to take a moment once you're dressed and fully accessorized to show her the completed product. Grab your photographer (and some tissues!) and document the smiles and happy tears, as well as some sweet mother-daughter portraits that will look perfect framed in her living room.

See More: I Want to Honor My Mom and Have Her in My Bridal Party. Can My Mom Be a Bridesmaid?

Surprise Her With a Special Gift
A little token, along with a heartfelt note, is a great way to acknowledge everything she's done for you, as well as to commemorate the day. You could pick out an accessory to go with her MOB gown, or something that you know she'll wear every day. You could even treat her to a mother-daughter spa day so the two of you can recover together after all the excitement winds down.

Have Her Walk You Down the Aisle
Whether you have Mom on one arm and Dad on the other, or have her walk you halfway down the aisle to meet your dad before he gives you away, involving your mom in this special final walk is a great way to show her how much she means to you.

Plan a Mother-Daughter Dance
Pick a song the two of you love, like that Rolling Stones classic you grew up dancing around the kitchen to, or something more poignant like Lee Ann Womack's "I Hope You Dance." Start off just the two of you, then invite the rest of the mothers and daughters at your reception to join in.

Borrow Something From Her Wedding Day
Carrying something of your mom's with you down the aisle is a sweet way to show that you'll always have her close to you. Wear her veil, use the same pin to fasten the ribbons on your bouquet, tuck her handkerchief in near your heart, or slip her wedding band onto your right hand.

Use Her Favorite Blooms
Does your mom love calla lilies? Is her garden full of peonies? Whatever her favorite flower is, include a few blossoms in your bouquet or, better yet, throughout your wedding décor. Be sure to use them in her corsage, too!

Do I Need to Get My Future Mother-in-Law a Mother’s Day Gift?

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May 062016
 
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We get it, etiquette and tradition surrounding the world of in-laws can be tricky, and confusing, especially for holidays and special occasions. We're here to help! But the short answer to whether or not you need to get your future mother-in-law a gift for Mother's Day? Well, yes. She's about to be your family, after all! But what you gift your MIL and how all depends on your relationship, and there are a few things to keep in mind when it comes to selecting the ideal present.

Here are some things to consider when trying to pick out that perfect gift for your future mother-in-law.

First Mother's Day Together?
If it's the first time you're celebrating Mother's Day with your fiancé's family (aka you've been together a year or less) what you do this Mother's Day may very well set the tone for the future. If you are actually spending the day with your future MIL, we recommend giving her a small token for the holiday. You don't have to go all out, but a bit of recognition that she is soon to be your mother-in-law can go a very long way, and will undoubtedly mean a lot to her. We think flowers and candles, along with a sweet card or note, work perfectly in this situation.

Do What You've Always Done
This is for the couple that has been together for a while. If nothing has changed in your relationship status since last Mother's Day, it's perfectly okay to repeat history here. Keep it simple and stress-free by sticking with what you've always done for continuity. Next year you can begin gifting from the both of you as married couple. (Woo!)

Give From the Both Of You
We love the idea of giving a gift from the two of you — after all, you will most likely be doing so from now on for all future holidays, anyway. By gifting from both of you, you can eliminate the stress of shopping alone and picking out the perfect item, since your fiancé knows his mom best! Reciprocate this for your mom too, and you're as good as gold.

Tip: We recommend communicating this with any of your siblings/siblings-in-law ahead of time in case they were banking on chipping in with him again, just to keep things open.

Reflect On Your Relationship
When it comes to gift giving, the gift should reflect (at least in some way) your relationship with the recipient. So in this case, think about how well you know your future MIL, how close you are, and what you want your gift to convey. If you're very close, go with gifts that appeal to her interests and hobbies or express your love and appreciation. If you're still getting to know her, simpler gifts might be more appropriate. Whatever you do, don't go over the top here — it's not about bells and whistles. Stick with what you're comfortable with, and enjoy the day with your soon-to-be family and fiancé.

Do I Need to Get My Future Mother-in-Law a Mother’s Day Gift?

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May 062016
 
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We get it, etiquette and tradition surrounding the world of in-laws can be tricky, and confusing, especially for holidays and special occasions. We're here to help! But the short answer to whether or not you need to get your future mother-in-law a gift for Mother's Day? Well, yes. She's about to be your family, after all! But what you gift your MIL and how all depends on your relationship, and there are a few things to keep in mind when it comes to selecting the ideal present.

Here are some things to consider when trying to pick out that perfect gift for your future mother-in-law.

First Mother's Day Together?
If it's the first time you're celebrating Mother's Day with your fiancé's family (aka you've been together a year or less) what you do this Mother's Day may very well set the tone for the future. If you are actually spending the day with your future MIL, we recommend giving her a small token for the holiday. You don't have to go all out, but a bit of recognition that she is soon to be your mother-in-law can go a very long way, and will undoubtedly mean a lot to her. We think flowers and candles, along with a sweet card or note, work perfectly in this situation.

Do What You've Always Done
This is for the couple that has been together for a while. If nothing has changed in your relationship status since last Mother's Day, it's perfectly okay to repeat history here. Keep it simple and stress-free by sticking with what you've always done for continuity. Next year you can begin gifting from the both of you as married couple. (Woo!)

Give From the Both Of You
We love the idea of giving a gift from the two of you — after all, you will most likely be doing so from now on for all future holidays, anyway. By gifting from both of you, you can eliminate the stress of shopping alone and picking out the perfect item, since your fiancé knows his mom best! Reciprocate this for your mom too, and you're as good as gold.

Tip: We recommend communicating this with any of your siblings/siblings-in-law ahead of time in case they were banking on chipping in with him again, just to keep things open.

Reflect On Your Relationship
When it comes to gift giving, the gift should reflect (at least in some way) your relationship with the recipient. So in this case, think about how well you know your future MIL, how close you are, and what you want your gift to convey. If you're very close, go with gifts that appeal to her interests and hobbies or express your love and appreciation. If you're still getting to know her, simpler gifts might be more appropriate. Whatever you do, don't go over the top here — it's not about bells and whistles. Stick with what you're comfortable with, and enjoy the day with your soon-to-be family and fiancé.

Don’t Forget Mom and Dad! Thank-You Gift Ideas for Parents of the Bride and Groom

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May 052016
 

They walk you down the aisle, share in your first dances, and help you prepare for your big day. More than that, they've loved and supported you since day one. So how do you say "thank you" to your parents for all of that, and more?

There aren't really rules for what to give, or even if you have to give a gift to your parents on your wedding day. And here at BRIDES, we happen to think any token of appreciation will do. Check out our favorite ways to say thanks to your parents on your wedding day.

Surprise Gratitude
Your wedding video is sure to have captured all of the highlights of your wedding day. The one thing it can't capture, however, is your gratitude for your parents. Surprise your parents by working with your videographer to include a "thank you" message you can secretly step away to record on your big day! When you receive your video, host a big reveal and there won't be a dry eye in the house.

Family Dinner
If you're one who treasures experiences and memories over tangible gifts, consider either hosting a family dinner (with all your new registry items, of course!), or treating your parents and new in-laws to a night out. By celebrating after the wedding, you can spend an evening together for the first time as a family. At the meal, don't forget to express your gratitude, love and appreciation for them and the roles they have played not only in your wedding, but in your lives.

Thank-You Tree
Got a green thumb? Consider planting a symbolic tree in both family's backyards that you will be able to watch grow and bloom for years to come. Trees are symbolic of growth, which is what you've done right before their very eyes, and what you and your new husband will continue to do with your family. Seriously, what's better than a thank you gift that will keep on giving and is also good for the environment?

Handwritten Cards
In such a digital world, there's SO much to be said for a heartfelt, handwritten message. Select high quality, special occasion stationery to truly put your feelings into words, and to do so the "old fashioned" way. There are also specialty cards available just for this occasion!

See More: Everything the Father-of-the-Bride Needs to Do Before, During, and After the Wedding

A Sweet Escape
Just like you and your new husband need some R&R (or adventure!) after the big day, your parents would certainly love some too! If you have the means, consider gifting both sets of parents a trip, weekend, or evening away to remember. If your in-laws and parents are super close, you can even organize it to be a joint experience. You can be as extravagant as a European excursion, or as simple as a night away or out on the town — either way your parents will love every minute of it.

Timeless Jewelry & Accessories
Wearable gifts combine style and sentiment. Consider gifting fathers of the bride or groom cufflinks engraved or customized with something to forever remind them of your gratitude for your big day. For mothers of the bride or groom, we love the idea of infinity or heart pendants for both that symbolize not only love, but the joining of two families that occurs when their children have tied the knot. Custom, embroidered handkerchiefs for the wedding day also make sentimental (and useful!) tokens of appreciation.

Pick Up The Slack
With all the craziness of wedding planning, there are bound to be projects or tasks in your parents' lives that they have had to "let go" to be there for you through the planning journey. As a way to say thank you, tackle the project for them. Whether it's a weeded garden, an unorganized attic, a car wash, trip to the salon, etc. — this is a simple and relatively easy way to show them just how much you appreciate their time and effort.

Sentimental Photographs
Who says you have to give your parents their thank-you gift on your big day? Why not wait a bit until you receive your professional photos (after all, you've certainly paid enough for them!) Speak with your photographer beforehand about parent and family portraits that are MUSTS. Once you receive them, have them printed in high quality and framed especially for your parents. After all, if a photo is worth 1,000 words, wedding photos must be worth at least 2,000. Right?

Now That We’re Engaged, How Do We Handle Mother’s Day?

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May 042016
 

You've made it official, either with a ring or vows — and now you're on your path to creating and combining your lives and families. But first, let's tackle the holidays. If this is your first holiday as a married or engaged couple, fear not! We're here to help. Here's some advice on how to navigate the potentially murky waters of family holidays.

Evaluate Your Traditions
Relax, you don't have to reinvent the wheel here. Be sure you communicate with your partner about how your families traditionally spend Mother's Day. If your family never really makes a big deal and a phone call and a bouquet are the norm — there's no reason to go all out or shake things up. If both of you traditionally spend the day with your respective families, then it's time to compromise. While it may seem awkward or complicated at first, try to remember the reason for this, it's the blending and merging of two families all because of you and the love of your life. It's all good.

Create a Rotation
One option that can help maintain tradition (and sanity) is to create a holiday rotation. If last year you spent Mother's Day with his family, this year it can be your turn. If this is the first time sticking together for the day, explain to both families your intentions of taking turns moving forward and choose together which family to begin with. (If you want to be super fair, you can even flip a coin.) Just be certain that whichever mom you reserve for next year still feels the love!

Double Duty
There's two ways to conquer Mother's Day like a champ and still see both moms. For couples who are lucky enough to have your families live in near proximity to one another, you can split the day. Brunch with your mom and dinner with your mother-in-law? Boom.

Luckily, weekends also have TWO glorious days (we WISH it was three, or four...) Anyway — if you want to ensure that each of your moms has the time and attention they deserve and can't do that on Sunday alone, celebrate "Mother's Day Weekend" instead. Spend Saturday with one mom, and Sunday with the other. Be sure to set aside a little alone time for the weekend too, so you're not running around like crazy.

Combine it!
If you can swing it, this is perhaps the best way to keep everyone together, happy, and have some serious family bonding too. If you've recently moved in together, offer to host both your mom's for the special event! Or, invite both families to brunch. This not only streamlines things (in your favor, too!) but it also will help to create family memories for years to come.

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Mother’s Day Gift Ideas Perfect for Mothers of the Bride

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May 032016
 
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Mother's Day is a time to express love, gratitude to all the moms of the world. We all know weddings are an extra special time for mothers and daughters, and that can be reflected in what you choose to gift your mom for her big day. So we've rounded up some of our favorite Mother's Day gift ideas for mothers of the bride (and mothers of the groom, too!).

Embroidered Handkerchiefs
Many moms shed a tear (or twenty) throughout their daughter's wedding day. A perfect way to ensure your mom is prepared, in sentimental style, would be to gift her a thoughtful embroidered handkerchief. Choose a phrase or song lyric that has a special meaning to you both, or consider cute rhyming prose with your wedding date adorning a quality handkerchief. Mom will be sure to not only cherish it but actually use it, too. What's better than that?

Sentimental Photos & Frames
What mom doesn't love pictures? If you're soon-to-be married, give mom a frame with a thoughtful quote for her to put a wedding photo of you both in once you become a married woman.

Already tied the knot? Peruse through your digital files (for the 100th time) and find the perfect photos of the two of you sharing a moment together or a family portrait. Have the photos high quality printed and choose a simple frame to go with mom's décor. Or, peruse Groupon for the always-present canvas deals and have a quality canvas print crafted for mom. (Seriously, they're awesome!)

Jewelry
Moms deserve to sparkle and shine everyday, but especially on their wedding day as they watch their daughters marry. If mom has already chosen her mother-of-the-bride look, select a special bracelet or earrings that can complement her ensemble. For extra personalization, consider engraving the inside of a bracelet or back of a pendant, or adding a simple photo charm of your younger years to a special occasion piece for her to wear on your big day.

Pampering
We all know how expensive weddings can be (well, are!). Eliminate a bit of the financial stress by gifting mom some prepaid beauty or pampering services. Take care of her wedding day mani/pedi in advance, pre-pay her makeup or hair trail, or even present her with a handwritten card on Mother's Day, letting her know you've pick up the day-of beauty tab and of course how much you love and adore her, too.

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